A basic human need is to feel belonged and cared for, this applies to both men and women. Girls love their independence and don’t “need” a man to pay their bills or protect them, they want a man who is loving and respects their space and individuality. Before we dive into “How to make a girl like you with reverse psychology,” let us understand what reverse psychology is:
Reverse psychology is the principle or practice of subtly encouraging a behavior or belief by advocating its opposite. It is a persuasive technique that involves getting someone to engage in the desired action or response by suggesting the opposite. For example, a father suggests that his rather stingy son cannot afford to buy his sister a birthday present. The boy reacts by buying her a really nice present.
Playing mind games isn’t the most ideal method when you’re considering getting a girl to like you, as it can come across as manipulative or desperate if not handled properly. However, there are some effective reverse psychology tips and tricks to harmlessly make a girl like you.
1. Give them space
Give the girl you’re interested in or pursuing space, that way you’ll both miss each other and have more to share when you next see or speak to each other. To achieve this desired closeness and intimacy, reverse psychology here requires the opposite, which is to give each other some space and distance. This works provided that the other person shows interest in you, not when the girl has made it clear that she doesn’t see you in that way.
2. Stop being submissive
Girls love it when the guy who is approaching them or vice-versa, is independent instead of being too tame and accommodating. Don’t just settle and sit around for plans to be made by them, be bold and assertive by organizing your own plans and fitting them into your schedule. Remember, you’re just as important as them, so don’t be easily swayed or controlled by their movements.
3. Complain for compliments
This sounds strange, but it’s highly likely that we’re all familiar with this reverse psychology trick. If you want to receive a compliment about your hair or outfit or want to know how she truly feels about you, then just complain about it. She will most likely disagree and assure you that you look fine and even throw in a couple of other compliments to convince you otherwise. The trick is to find the right balance in doing so, it shouldn’t come across as being too needy or desperate.
4. Play nice even when they’re not
In the midst of a conversation, if they’re being unreasonable or bickering about someone or something, be the bigger person and play nice, especially when they’re being unreasonably cruel as they’ll soon come to their senses and realise they were being irrational in comparison to your cool self.
5. Challenge them
This trick works like a charm, all you need to do is to simply state that you don’t believe they’re capable of delivering whatever you’ve challenged them to. For example, if you say that you don’t think they can arrive on time for your next date, they’re more likely to want to prove you wrong and end up doing exactly what you want – which is for them to arrive on time for your next date. Just make bets and challenges to spice things up and have them unintentionally do what you want them to do.
6. Be unpredictable
People typically favor more spontaneous, fun times in relationships. Predictability is boring, no one wants to date a guy who is dull and monotonous and vice-versa. So, if you’re looking to have someone be more intrigued and interested in you – the trick here is to be bold and unpredictable. Organize fun outings, look for more quirky activities to do, and be daring.
If you want a girl to like you, don’t attempt to control her or tell her what she has to do, let her be her own self, and respect her for that. All the above points may work only if the girl is showing interest in you or wants to continue talking/meeting you. This may not work if the girl has explicitly stated that this is not what she wants.
Remember, playing too hard to get can backfire as the other person may sense that you’re not interested and may withdraw. The trick is to find the right balance.
